Psalm 127:3-5 Don’t you see that children are God’s best gift?
the fruit of the womb his generous legacy?
Like a warrior’s fistful of arrows
are the children of a vigorous youth.
Oh, how blessed are you parents,
with your quivers full of children!
Your enemies don’t stand a chance against you;
you’ll sweep them right off your doorstep.
It is an incredible joy and privilege to be called ‘daddy’ by these 3 munchkins! Being a parent is amazing in it’s ability to often simultaneously be both the biggest blessing and headache in life. Honestly, I love these kids to death BUT SERIOUSLY, some days they drive me to the edge of insanity.
Being a dad is not for cowards, not for quitters, and it’s certainly not for the self-absorbed. There has never been anything in my life that has demanded the amount of sacrifice and patience that being a dad requires. This is why the Psalm borrows terms from warfare to describe parenting, you better be ready for the fight!
Sadly, however, too many dads are not ready to battle, and end up mistaking their children for the enemy. These kids walk away from their fathers wounded and scarred. I don’t believe dad’s intentionally do this, they just lose perspective, subtly they shift and begin reacting out of stress, frustration and a host of other harmful vices. Yesterday I left the office and couldn’t wait to get home. As I headed down the road, I thought of a few reminders I constantly need as a dad, I scribbled them down on some old paper, here they are as best as I recall…
Don’t be surprised if your absence today results in their apathy tomorrow!
There is no substitute for spending time with your kids. Forget the conversation about quality vs quantity of time, your kids need and deserve both. Your kids can’t just turn on affection and trust towards you, it has to be earned!
Don’t be surprised if your anger today results in their horrible attitude tomorrow!
Have you ever heard a parent getting on to their child for a bad attitude and ask the kid, ‘where did that come from?’ Many times the kid is modeling behavior seen in the parents. Never underestimate the impact of your words, attitudes and actions in the life of your children, remember, this Psalm is talking about leaving a legacy.
Don’t be surprised if your defiance of authority today results in their disobedience to authority tomorrow!
Dad’s do you want your children to honor you? Let me ask a few other questions…Do you honor your boss? Do you honor the leaders over you (in government, at church, etc.)? Don’t expect behavior out of your kids that you aren’t willing to give yourself.